Friday
Feb142014

Full Confessional Friday! 2/14/2014

Be it Venial or Mortal (there's no escaping Original), we've all got secrets -- light, dark, funny, sad -- worth bringing to light. The act of confession can be liberating, mollifying and entertaining. Contrition? Repentance? A shot of Tequila? That's your call, sister.  

Thursday
Feb132014

A Mrs. G. Social Inquiry...Let's Discuss

Photo by Star Foreman

 

Hi, Heather,
 
I found this article today, and thought it would be an interesting topic of conversation at the Manor:
 
 
Full disclosure, the woman is a colleague of mine, I've known her for a couple of years in that capacity. I did not know anything about her personal life.  She's a wonderful colleague, and I think she and her husband are brave to "out" themselves like this. I'm also proud that our common employer is supportive.
 
Plus, I think that their relationship as depicted in the article, is really sweet!
 
I think the Derf community could have a very rich and interesting discussion about this.
Mrs. G. is not allowed to reprint the article here, so you really do have to go and read it. She's been thinking about how she would deal with this for the last hour and she's curious what all of you have to say. She knows this group can be honest without insulting. Let's talk!

 

 

Wednesday
Feb122014

Wednesday 5...No Reason, No Motive. Just Curious

1) Chinese or Mexican food?

2) What is the name of the favorite street you have ever lived on?

3) What is one thing other drivers do that drive you nuts.

4) What is one good thing that has happened to you today?

5) Favorite soap to use in the shower/bath?

Wednesday
Feb122014

Wedding Eve

The week before their wedding, Mr. G. asked Mrs. G. if she would like to have a pasta feed/party the night before their wedding. Mrs. G. said, "No I definitely wouldn't," but she hadn't come to grips with the notion that when Mr. G. asked her opinion on something, it was often for rhetorical purposes only. So within four days, he had invited at least 40 people to come over to celebrate their impending nuptials, for which they had to awake and prepare for at 6:30 the next morning.

rhe·tor·i·cal  adjective \ri-ˈtȯr-i-kəl, -ˈtär-\

: of, relating to, or concerned with the art of speaking or writing formally and effectively especially as a way to persuade or influence people

of a question : asked in order to make a statement rather than to get an answer

Mrs. G. is not fond of large, loud parties and she was particularly nervous to meet so many of Mr. G's friends she had never met before, particularly a group of his college friends who had flown in from different states. She was anxious about being so much younger (with the exception of John Lennon, she hated the Beatles -- get over it, world), so much less educated and so much less able to hold her liquor. 

So she started drinking two hours before everyone started showing up. By the time people started arriving in droves (Droves!), Mrs. G. was so buzzed, she greeted everyone with great enthusiasm. She didn't even care that her father-in-law, stone sober, once again introduced her to several people as "Hester" or that a button had popped off her expensive blouse and she was occasionally exposing her boobs to the guests. Hey what's a few breasts among friends when you've had half-a-bottle of Pinot.

After the family and old people had visited, eaten and exited, the party really started. The corks popped and the wine started flowing. If Mrs. G. remembers correctly, she had abandoned her plastic cup and was just carrying a bottle around. There was dancing and snogging and smoke billowing up from the basement. It was the holy party trinity. 

Unless you were getting married in less than twelve hours.

The party was still in full tilt when Mrs. G. knew she had to go to bed. She literally crawled up the stairs and had to lie on the floor and rest for a bit when she got to the top. She vaguely remembers three people walking over her to get to the bathroom.

When she finally crawled commando style into the bedroom, she shut the door so she could curl up on the bed and fall asleep. Before she could get on the bed, she started hurling on the (Rental!) carpet and she couldn't stop. She was choking and was sure she was going to pull a Jim or Janice minus the talent and Rock & Roll stardom. She imagined people at her funeral saying, "She was a great grocery price checker. What a, um, waste."

Mrs. G. didn't want to die so she start screaming bloody murder in between throwing up. The music and noise of the party was so loud no one could hear her. So, she called her friend Karen and told her to call back to the house and to tell Nick the wedding might be off, because she was dying upstairs. The phone rang and rang and rang, so Mrs. G. picked it up. No one was answering the phone downstairs, so Karen tried to talk Mrs. G. down. Very few people can talk Mrs. G. down in a crisis situation so she started screaming, "I'M DYING UP HERE YOU MOTHERFUCKERS! I'M DYING UP HERE YOU MOTHERFUCKERS!" and banging her shoes on the bedroom floor in hopes that someone would hear her. "Calm down," Karen pleaded. "I'll call the house again and if nobody answers, I'm on my way over. Stay on your side so you don't choke on your vomit." Mrs. G. was six steps ahead of her. She was on all fours so she wouldn't choke on her vomit.

The phone rang again and whoever answered it brought Nick to the phone. "Where are you," he asked, three sheets to the wind himself. "I'M UPSTAIRS THROWING UP AND MAYBE DYING." "Upstairs in our house?" he clarified. "YES, YOU BASTARD, UPSTAIRS IN OUR HOUSE...DYING!" "I'm on my way!" he said.

Twenty minutes later, he busted in to the bedroom to find Mrs. G. had stopped vomiting and was now scrubbing the carpet so they could get their cleaning deposit back.

"Are you OK, babe?"

"Well I am alive if that's what you mean."

Mrs. G. forgave him as they were to be wed in less than nine hours and there was no getting any of the deposits back. The wedding cake already had their names on it.

He tucked her in and went back down to the party. Oh how he would suffer in the morning. Oh how everyone would suffer in the morning.

When the alarm went off, he asked if he could sleep another hour. "I hope that wasn't a rhetorical question," said Mrs. G. "Because we are hauling our asses out of this bed and getting hitched."

And they did.

Tuesday
Feb112014

the answer would be a gentle no, because mrs. g. does understand his appeal

Mrs. G. received four emails (Portland, Tulsa, Charlottesville and Knoxville) from Derfs over the weekend letting her know that they had made Mr. G's pasta sauce and it was indeed as delicious as she said. One sweetheart sent a photo of her bubbling sauce right after, as she said, the "chicken livers had landed." Mr. G. was flattered.

But Mrs. G. received a fifth email today that we are going to have to discuss because, well, because Mrs. G. thinks you will understand why.

Dear Mrs. G,

I just wanted to let you know how lucky you are to have a husband like Mr. G! I made his sauce on Saturday night and it was so good that I can't help but throw out the following proposal. You have mentioned that Mr. G. hasn't cleaned a bathroom in decades and doesn't really do household chores of any kind. I love cleaning bathrooms and I would be willing to assume all household chores if he would cook for me nightly. I know this would mean he has to move to the Northeast, but do you think you could spare him for this fellow Derf? Maybe even just every month? My love for Mr. G. is purely platonic and culinary inspired as I am in a a very serious imaginary relationship with Damian Lewis.

I look foward to hearing from you :) :) :)

V.

 

Dear V,

I appreciate your straight-forward, forthright approach to possibly acquiring my husband. I'm going to have to decline your offer because I really like him, and, damn woman, I gave you the coveted recipe. Have Damian Lewis make it for you. I kid, because I think you are sweet even though you want to exploit my man in the kitchen. I'm not going to share this exchange with him because, though he loves me, the allure of no chores might cause him to slip out in the night with his chicken livers and never look back. Like I'm going to let that happen -- just to be safe I have tied a bell to our bedroom doorknob in case he gets any ideas. 

All My Best-ish,

Mrs. G.

Sunday
Feb092014

a mrs. g. social inquiry: what is up with us?

Mrs. G. is working on a project that requires asking certain questions of women. On all but one question, they are quick to answer, downright chatty in fact. The one question that is, hands down, the most difficult for these women to answer is, "Tell me something you do really well?" Most of them suddenly scrunch up their faces and look stricken, they hem and haw and ask to pass on the question. Mrs. G. assures them the answer doesn't have to be deep, just one little thing they excel at. Finally, most of them come up with something.

So, today could you you do something for Mrs. G? Brag. She knows society deems it snotty and unladylike for us to highlight our strengths, but can we just take one day (a Sabbath of sorts) off from this ridiculousness?

Would you leave a comment bragging about something (or many things) you do particularly well? Lurkers, Mrs. G. is looking at you. No free lunch today. Mrs. G. is sending out her Bat Signal. And then could you all write down your comment(s) and stick it on a mirror or in your pocket, and should you be asked this question by stout blonde strangers or job interviewers or snooty in-laws, you will have your answer at the ready.

Would you do this for her? She needs it, so she can carry it foward to the next woman she asks.

Friday
Feb072014

Full Confessional Friday! 2/7/2014

Be it Venial or Mortal (there's no escaping Original), we've all got secrets -- light, dark, funny, sad -- worth bringing to light. The act of confession can be liberating, mollifying and entertaining. Contrition? Repentance? A shot of Tequila? That's your call, sister.    

Wednesday
Feb052014

“Never trust anyone who has not brought a book with them.” ~Lemony Snickett

Note: Several mothers have written Mrs. G. over the years asking her to republish this particular post on reading with kids. Mrs. G. searched high and low through her archives and couldn't find it. Finally, it dawned on her that she wrote it for the PW site, so she headed over there and stole it back. She hopes you find it helpful (and entertaining) and can forgive her outlaw ways.


Mrs. G. loves books. Her house is filled with them. Her car is filled with them. She even carries a couple of them in her purse. While some people fear heights and the End Times, Mrs. G’s idea of terror involves being stuck at the DMV or Jiffy Lube without a book to read. Rather than sit quietly and enjoy a moment of self-reflection, Mrs. G. will pull out a tampon and read the wrapper.

She’s not going to discuss the past legal problems that have ensued as a result of her shady dealings with the various book-of the-month-clubs. It wasn’t until she got her first credit report in her twenties that it occurred to her that she really was obligated to buy those four books following the freebies, and that perhaps she lacked well-grounded judgment in signing up for a few clubs in her former cats’ names: Fuzzy and Hershey G.

Mrs. G’s kids were the same way. They were serious book lovers. While her son was a reluctant -- and she means reluctant --  reader, he finally became interested in sixth grade. Her daughter, however, had a wee obsession; she lugged around a book bag filled to the brim and weighing approximately 22 pounds nearly everywhere she went. Everywhere.

The Spiderwick Chronicles brought Mrs. G's son to the world of reading. And as soon as he finished one, he and Mrs. G. would immediately hop in the car and head to the bookstore to by the next in the series. Mrs. G. didn't even give a damn they were only in hardback; you do what you have to do.

When Mrs. G. was very young, she started the tradition (which she still carries on today) of writing authors whose books she loved, books she just adored. She wrote the authors a simple thank you note…three sentences at the most. Many authors wrote back over the last thirty years, and she has them all tied up in a pink satin ribbon and tucked in old cracker tin. Mrs. G. encouraged her children to do the same. When Mrs. G’s daughter was about twelve, she decided that she wanted to write Harper Lee to thank her for To Kill a Mockingbird. They mailed the thank you note to Harper Lee’s publisher in hopes that it would eventually get to her. Mrs. G. didn’t know at the time that Miss. Lee was a recluse, so the letter came back return to sender. Mrs. G. didn’t tell her daughter because she didn’t want to disappoint her, but Mrs. G. saved the letter because it was heartfelt, sugar-coated sweetness. The letter began:

Dear Miss Harper Lee,

I am twelve-years-old and am currently working on eight novels…

You would think with a love so all-consuming that Mrs. G. wouldn’t be such a basket case each fall when she has to distribute the book list to all of the eager students in her literature classes. This nervous condition is not caused by any difficulty in finding books she thinks are worth reading and discussing because, reader, there are just so many, but rather because every single year Mrs. G. has one or two parents who take issue with one or two of her chosen books.

There was the parent who objected to Patricia C. Wrede’s delightful Dealing With Dragons, because in certain religions dragons represent evil of the satanic nature. And just so you know, because this was news to Mrs. G, it’s the European dragons that are the worst spiritual offenders. Chinese dragons aren’t that much of a problem. Of all the continents’ dragons, apparently Eastern dragons are the most benevolent. Who knew? And then there was the dad who expressed concern over the swear words hell and damn in Katherine Paterson’s lovely Bridge to Terebithia. Mrs. G. listened quietly as he went on and on, all the while thinking holy shit... is damn even technically considered a fucking swear word anymore. Oh, and Mrs. G. will never forget the parent who questioned whether reading The Diary of Anne Frank might be pushing it, because, honestly, the Holocaust was so brutal and depressing.

Well, today ushered in a new complaint and it concerned the hungry wolves in Joan Aiken’s wonderfully creepy Wolves of Willoughby Chase, a Gothic tale, set in England, about a group of cousins whose parents go abroad and leave them with an evil governess named Letitia Slighcarp. When Mrs. G. chose this exciting book, no, she did not realize that it portrayed wolves in a negative light. Which is wrong, because, in fact, there is no record of any human ever being attacked by wolves and Native Americans revere them. Alrighty then.

Mrs. G. is sort of free and easy when it comes to books. When her kids were younger and she participated in play-groups, Mrs. G. was bombarded with advice on how she should do everything regarding her children–feed them, potty train them, educate them, put them to bed–and all that was just fine. But Mrs. G. remembers many of the moms read each and every book their child read before their child did. Mrs. G. tried that for a while, but her kids were voracious readers and she found that pre-reading their books left little time for, well, reading her own books. And she’s selfish that way. She just focused on filling her home’s shelves with good books (old and new) and kept an eye on what came home from the library. And this is how it’s rolled for the last twelve years, with no real problems to speak of.

Mrs. G. learned all her free and easy ways from her mom, another voracious reader. Mrs. G’s mom took Mrs. G. to get her library card pretty much when she was old enough to walk. And Mrs. G’s mom sort of left it that…and went off to read her own books. Mrs. G. was free to work her way through the best and the worst of it. She read the Little House Books, the Five Little Peppers books, the Nancy Drew books and the Trixie Beldon books…Mrs. G. just worked her way through the children’s section until she turned 14.5-years-old and discovered, have mercy, the adult section. And this is where Mrs. G’s literary life took a nose dive for a couple of years…into the abyss known as mass market paperbacks. She got a little taste of Danielle Steel and Judith Krantz and those creepy books about the brother and sister living up in that attic doing who knows what. But Mrs. G. worked her way through all this, perhaps, age inappropriate and, sometimes, so so quality of books and got back on the road to all things right and good.

Sometimes you have to dig through the trash to get to the good stuff.

So Mrs. G. gets crabby when people get so worked up over fiction. Do we have to be so sensitive about everything. She can’t be responsible for perking up the Holocaust or repairing the reputation of Canus Lupus, the American Wolf. She just wants to read and pass on her love of good books in a free and easy kind of way.

Here are some G. Family favorites:

Elementary

~The Mysteries of Harris Burdick
~Can You Guess My Name?
~Raising Sweetness
~The Catwings series
~Betsy-Tacy series
~Miss Hickory
~The Happy Hollister series
~Cricket in Times Square
~Strawberry Girl
~Time Cat
~Great Brain series
~Mr. Popper’s Penguins
~Chester Cricket’s Pigeon Ride
~Harry Kitten and Tucker Mouse
~Phantom Tollbooth
~The Wainscott Weasel
~Hank the Cowdog series
~The Freddie series
~Mary Poppins series
~Mrs. Piggle Wiggle
~My Father’s Dragon
~The Chet Gecko mysteries
~The Bobbsey Twins
~Understood Betsy
~The Year of Miss Agnes
~Hundred Dresses

 

Middle School

~Trixie Beldon Mysteries
~Frindle
~A Long Way From Chicago/or any Richard Peck Book
~Carry On, Mr. Bowditch
~The Bronze Bow
~The Matchlock Gun
~The Penderwicks series
~The Mysterious Secret Benedict Society
~The Adventures of Hugo Cabret
~The Lightening Thief
~Sisters Grimm series
~Chasing Vermeer
~Inkheart series
~The Thief Lord
~Five Little Pepper series
~Ginger and Pinky Pye
~Wrinkle in Time
~Narnia Chronicles
~Everything on a Waffle
~The Girl of Limberlost
~Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland
~Anne of Green Gables
~Mrs. Frisby and the Rats of NIMH
~Swiss Family Robinson
~Kidnapped
~Reluctant Dragon
~Snow Queen
~The Hobbit
~Huckleberry Finn
~Adventures of Tom Sawyer
~Small Steps
~Ella Enchanted
~Black Stallion
~Blue Wolf
~My Side of the Mountain
~Crispin Cross of Lead
~The Little Grey Men
~The Sword in the Stone
~A Proud Taste of Scarlet and Miniver
~The Royal Diaries

 

High School

~Education of Little treel
~Great Expectations
~Oliver Twist
~Fair and Tender Ladies
~Endymion Springs
~The Boy in Striped Pajamas
~Star Girl
~To Kill a Mockingbird
~Of Mice and Men
~The Grapes of Wrath
~Frankenstein
~Jane Eyre
~Vanity Fair
~Emma
~Pride & Prejudice
~A Tree Grow in Brooklyn
~A Prayer for Owen Meany
~The Three Musketeers
~I am the Cheese
~All Creatures Great and Small
~The Color of Water
~The Screwtape Letters
~Washington Square
~My Antonia
~Jim the Boy

Behold the library card, your ticket to everywhere. Behold librarians, who won't judge where ever you want to wander. They are the rock stars of free speech. Get thee to a library today!