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Full Confessional Friday!

Be it Venial or Mortal (there's no escaping Original), we've all got secrets -- light, dark, funny, sad -- worth bringing to light. The act of confession can be liberating, mollifying and entertaining. Contrition? Repentance? A shot of Tequila? That's your call, sister. 

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No confessions from me today, but after battling health problems all winter that culminated in a short hospital stay on Memorial Day weekend, I'm feeling like "I'm back." I'm grateful that I will have my reasonably good health a while longer. Fingers crossed.

And speaking of hospitals -- I know the book club got suspended, but I wonder if anyone might be interested in trying to talk 5 Days at Memorial on Twitter. How many are on Twitter? We could have our own hashtag #derfbooks. I've participated in a number of tweetchats and I guess I'm putting myself out there to lead it if need be.

June 13, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterLisse

I'm 53 years old and still can not manage money effectively. It pisses me off that I am constantly broke and stressed about money and living pay check to pay check with no savings and no retirement either! I really thought I'd have my shit together better by now.

June 13, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterKim

Derfs!
I decided to not go back to my job at the theater that I've been at for 9 years. I don't have anuthing else lined up yet but I realized that I wasn't going to find something else unless I really put myself out there. I don't mind nannying for a while as well. And I'm fairly certain I'm going to move to NYC by the end of 2014.

AND! I started a blog chronicling the books in my challenge to read 100 books this year. Come on by: https://therumblereview.wordpress.com

I hope everyone is doing well!

June 13, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterRegina

My eyebrows are in sad shape. Hurt right thumb makes gripping tweezers difficult. I need to do all my nails, pluck my brows, and curl my hair to look presentable for an art opening I have to also drive 2 hours to get to. I think I may go find a patch of poison ivy to gt out of all of this.

June 13, 2014 | Unregistered Commentermolly

I went down a pants size (XL to L) in 4.5 days this week. I have not had a success such as this in over a decade....it's too soon to get too excited, yet here I am!

June 13, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterJulie

How about a wee haiku, hmm?

Friday the thirteenth,
Septic guy comes over to pump.
And he shakes my hand.

OK, aside from the cracked rear view, which is mandatory, why do septic tank guys always wanna shake your hand and hang out and explain their tea party viewpoint? I mean, sure, friendly and outgoing is always a plus BUT...... ;)

Have a great weekend, all!

June 13, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterGary Edward Rith

I took a part time job teaching at a community college that is about 35 minutes from home.
It is strange to drive away and go somewhere else to work.
I am enjoying parts of the teaching, and part of the getting away.
But- I am not sure it is the right thing to do.
Then again, I come home and see how little we are selling in our shop and I know it is the right thing to do.
Paying the bills is still important.
My beef- it wears me slap out to be gone for 9 hours.
Dinner still has to be cooked and lunch for the next day has to be packed.
I refuse to eat from the vending machines.....
But! there is a place in town that serves, pizza, subs, burgers and Pad Thai...... makes you wonder. Or it makes me wonder.
Cheers gals and guys....
Gary embrace the sh*t that guy must go through.

June 13, 2014 | Unregistered Commentermeredith@whynot

Just woke from a nap. I didn't sleep well because the kitty had a urinary tract infection last night, and I was afraid she'd die. She's about eight - I don't know her exact age as she showed up declawed in the backyard, starving, down to under three pounds, around seven years back. We figured she was about a year old. She's the princess, and very well mannered, usually greeting visitors with an air kiss - if welcomed, she gets puts her lips close to yours and holds her head there a moment, staring at you. So, to the vet this morning, getting her re-hydrated and some shots, and blood taken to be worked up. She is down to almost five pounds, and the vet said she has a heart murmur. I know, she's just a cat, but we'd rather hang with the cat than go out of town or even just go out. She's our buddy. I know the trauma she went through that first year before we found her took a toll on her health, but I want my kitty friend to stick around for many more years. Right now, she seems much better, especially as after I dropped off her and Louie I picked up raw tuna, and turkey slices, and chicken broth. She got pushy for a while, but now is just petting me as I pet her. When I stoke her back, she strokes my arm with her paw, purring.

Lissa, glad you're doing better - being sick drains the mind too. Your whole comment glows.

Kim, there are some organizations which will help people learn how to manage money, though not one of those advertising to help with debt consolidation. I can't remember the names, but maybe SCORE? Google your area; there could even be an evening class. I've encountered far too many who have never learned, and it should be a basic skill, but most parents either don't think about it, or have problems themselves.

Gary, my husband had to take the driving test several years back, and the guy from the licensing department got in the car, turned on the radio and switched it to Rush Limbaugh, and proceeded to expound the whole time his crazy far-right views. Louie passed (and he didn't have to shake hands).

June 13, 2014 | Unregistered Commenternaomi d

Bad news: my sister in law has a heart attack on Sunday.
Worse news: that evening, she is not responding any commands, nor does she recognize anyone
Awesome news:next day she is totally fine except for needing a pacemaker and she's lost her short term memory
More great news: she's home on the couch sleeping and all summer activities will be cancelled while her family waits on her hand and foot with pure gratitude in their hearts.

Lesson for me: Good vs. bad is all relative. The stuff I usually consider "bad" is just me grumbling about crap that doesn't really matter. I am incredibly blessed.
(And, I'm going on a diet. I credit much of my sister-in-laws speedy recovery to the fact that she is in great shape.)

Have a wonderful weekend friends!

June 13, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterJenny in NC

Meredith, I know. Whether your stuff is selling or however you earn your money there is always brakes to replace on the car, you need a new roof or whatever, EGAD life is expensive, but at least I am not a full-time septic pumper ICK.

June 14, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterGary Edward Rith

I love my children. I know without a doubt that homeschooling them is the right thing to do. I know that they are healthy inquisitive little souls and that I don't want to crush that. But why must they be so loud? It is never quiet in my house, from 6am to 8pm I can hear one or both children often at full volume. My 8yr old daughter talks incessantly, often repeating herself multiple times and my 6yr old son makes non-stop sounds effects, at least 20% of which are bathroom humor related. I am the kind of person who thrives on 4-8hrs of solitude. Every day. I try and get up before them and they can sense it and start getting up earlier themselves. I have tried to be a night person but my brain basically shuts off at 5pm. I'd also really enjoying being able to have an uninterrupted conversation with my husband more than the once a month we can send them to one or the other set of grandparents for the night. I think I need a vacation by myself.

June 14, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterHeather in Oregon

I am going to spill this week. Job hunting is very frustrating and I'm beginning to wonder if I am going to get hired anywhere. Rejection is starting to wear on me.

Hugs to all who are dealing with the complexity of life.

June 14, 2014 | Unregistered Commentermrs. g.

So sorry to hear that, Mrs. G. Any school would be lucky to have you!

My confession is that my dear friend's party planning is wearing on me. She is having a graduation party for her DD. Her DD is immature and frequently unkind to her mother, but my friend nakedly adores this girl, and is SO excited and proud of her (as mothers should be! I know I'm being a bitch about this). The grad party is a narcissistic tribute to this young woman, with full-size posters, a slide show of her life, photos on every table, photo on the cake, and organized trivia games featuring questions about her likes, dislikes, hobbies, etc. It's just TOO MUCH. I feel like I'm going to a propaganda event about THE MAGNIFICENCE OF THE GIRL instead of being able to sincerely congratulate her for finishing high school.

My friend is so happy and proud to do this for her DD. I would never say anything to hurt her feelings, but I am just so overwhelmed by it all, and I will be helping her with party details from beginning to end next weekend, so I'm in the middle of it. "Is it ok to have any pink balloons if pink is not one of DD's top 5 favorite colors?" Just WTF. Settle down please.

June 14, 2014 | Unregistered Commenteranon

No real confessions, just wishing I weren't so tired all the time. I worked last week with a woman who's being treated at a Wellness Center, which treats for hormonal and nutritional imbalances. I'm thinking of giving it a try. I have issues I can't do anything about right now (have to take tamoxifen for another 3 years, and it has a list of side effects that are a little annoying but not unmanageable), but it would be nice to get some nutritional guidance.

Then there's the pressing need I have for a haircut. It's gone from 'yeah, I should call for an appointment' to 'Jesus H., my hair looks like crap!'

June 14, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterNacCrackHouse

anon - oh good, it's not just me? I hereby confess that entire years of my daughter's life are missing. I cannot decide if it is "age appropriate forgetfulness" (!), or if I was genuinely so uninvolved with her. I know I worked lots and lots of hours, took care of my mother, and kept up with a small farm, but . . . I see how involved she is with her daughter, and I think I'm seeing the pendulum swing. They don't have much time for me and again I cannot decide if that is resentment from her, or if they are just so dadgummed busy doing stuff that may or may not need to be done. Water under the bridge as they say, but the sadness doesn't flow away as easily.

June 15, 2014 | Unregistered Commenteralso anon

Kim, my husband and I learned a lot from Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace books/program. It explains in clear steps how to get out of debt and save money. Good luck to you!

June 15, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterSharon

Job hunting is hell. One friend a few years back was laid off (lied that it was system-wide but she was the only one and her husband had been diagnosed with a bad cancer), and it took her a year and a half of concerted effort, sending her resume out over two hundred times, and having several dozen interviews. She was hired one month before COBRA ran out, so her husband didn't kill himself - he didn't want to stick her with medical bills. Few have such an incentive to go through the crap. I don't. Sorry, Mrs. G, you're slogging through it. I'm avoiding it but can't much longer. The tile mine just doesn't pay well enough nor give me the hours needed. I'm gearing up for the rejection and finally going to work on my resume. I think. I did find out to substitute teach here in NOLA requires only a high school diploma! That is ridiculous, but to my benefit with a degree I suppose.

Anon, sounds like your friend's daughter was trained to be narcissistic. I hope she does well when she gets away from home and can be alone in her head.

June 15, 2014 | Unregistered Commenternaomi d

Re the job hunt...LinkedIn seems to be where people go when they want to hire, or so claim my children. If you don't have a LinkedIn account, have someone who knows their way around it help you to have key words that pop up when people search. My son found his last two jobs by someone contacting HIM on LinkedIn, and my daughter was contacted about a job based on her profile and skills. It might be worth a try.

June 15, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterDeb

Oh, Fathers' Day. I'm fraught with conflicting feelings. Fraught, I tell you! My relationship with my father is that of the daughter whose dad loves her deeply but not personally. He knows the rules for fatherhood, but doesn't enjoy the fun of the game. He's got the words but can't feel the music. But I can love him for who he is, and forgive him for what he's not. Does he feel the same about me? I wonder.

June 15, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterGlori B.

I tried to call my dad 7 times this afternoon but got no answer. He's in an assisted living place, so either his phone battery is "dead" or he was out of his room all afternoon (which would be unusual). I feel guilty because I should have called at 8am instead of waiting until this afternoon. Now I'll be the wretched daughter who calls the day AFTER Father's Day.

@Karen, we can be wretched daughters together. I tried to call my dad twice yesterday, at times that were convenient for me. My parents have quite the social life and were gone. I didn't leave messages because I thought I'd call again later. Suddenly it was 10:30 and too late to call the old people.

I neglected to send a card, too...

I broke my pinky on May 20. Had surgery to fix it on May 29, so I am dealing with a cast. Of course it is on my dominant hand. I am single and live alone. The weight of how difficult EVERY SINGLE DAMN THING is to accomplish is really starting to take a toll on my mood and attitude. A few days ago I splattered salad dressing all over my kitchen and myself. I mean allll over the kitchen! I stood in the middle of the mess and wept and wailed for 5 minutes just because I had to clean it up one-handed. I can't cook or wash dishes, so I am eating way too much crap. I can't style my hair, so I feel like a Person of Wal-Mart. I can't even properly put hand lotion on my left hand.

I didn't need this, I really didn't. I'm already dealing with looking for a job, my lease running out and not knowing if I should renew or not (because I am looking for a job), coping with choosing to end my relationship with the love of my life, money stress, and now this.

I am trying to be patient, faithful, whatever you want to call it, but I'm tired of it!

I am also tired of only posting frustrations and sadness. This is not who I am.

June 16, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterViolet

Oh Violet..where are your friends? The ones that said can I help? Call them, tell them you need them. Really. If you can afford it hire someone to come clean for you.

Mrs G. Job hunting sucks. SUCKS I tell you. I did it almost six years ago for what seemed like forever but remember sitting down one afternoon and thinking " I am getting a job TODAY!" Now I didn't get one that day but I did apply for so many things that one finally panned out and almost six years later I am still here. Good luck. Be patient, yes I know how hard that is, you will land in the right spot. Have you told everyone you know you are looking?

My rant...my sister. My only sibling and I can barely stand to talk to her. I know it's wrong but when she wakes me up at 830 on Sunday morning after her two hour walk (really!) I want to scream. Yes I could shut my phone off but Dad is 83 and his wife is not in good health. Sister has CONTROL issues and she was on my last nerve with plans for Father's Day. NOTHING I did was GOOD ENOUGH or met her schedule. When I told her I'd make arrangements and pay for everything if she'd like to join us she went NUTS. I.Give.Up.

June 16, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterLisa

I HATE job-hunting. That is all.

June 17, 2014 | Unregistered Commentersuburbancorrespondent

There is so much that has gone on over the last few weeks that I don't even know what to do. I feel like I need to retreat entirely from most of my extended family. My sister is a mess, my mom is a mess, and I'm so tired.

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