Full Confessional Friday! 2/28/2013

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Be it Venial or Mortal (there's no escaping Original), we've all got secrets -- light, dark, funny, sad -- worth bringing to light. The act of confession can be liberating, mollifying and entertaining. Contrition? Repentance? A shot of Tequila? That's your call, sister.  

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I spent most of my only day off cleaning cat pee out of the carpets. I need a drink.

Happy weekend Derfs!

February 28, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterClaudia from Idiot's Kitchen

Chris just came home and called cheerily down the stairs, "You'll never GUESS what I've got you!"

I guessed scuba gear, a new tiara, a copy of the next Game of Thrones, all as he was descending, and he called back, "A Six-Pack of NOTHIN'!" and handed me a plastic grocery bag, all wrapped and folded around what felt at first like heavy rolls of coins, only long and square.

I just burst out laughing, and even though I hadn't thought about them too much since you mentioned them a while ago, I said, "ZERO BARS!!!"

Six King-Size ones---I didn't even know they made those. He's been in four states on service calls since you wrote about those, and covered probably three thousand miles, stopping in stores and markets and quick-stops all over the place, looking for these.

He just absolutely NEVER forgets. And it took me a minute to get the joke---he's a smarty pants, too.

February 28, 2014 | Unregistered Commenterrachel d

It is Girl Scout cookie season and I am the mother of 2 Girl Scouts in two different troops. Oh my gosh, the drama the mothers create around WHO will go to site sales and when! Then the moms go and stand around and talk to each other and are more of a burden than a help to the Scouts. There's all kinds of middle-age girl crazy to go along with the childhood-girl crazy. It's harder dealing with the moms than the girls!

February 28, 2014 | Unregistered Commentercariba

This is too weird to put on facebook so I will put it was super weird. Like level 10 out of 10 of weirdness. I had a huge spiritual realization this morning, got bogged down in some next-level anger at work, saw my first patient death as a hospice social worker (they usually die when I'm not there), then saw this bird with a broken wing flapping around on the ground as soon as I left. It was that which drove me to tears. Insert me sobbing all the way back to the office, but stopping for a baked potato. Weird. Weird. Weird.

February 28, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterJessie

Claudia, cat pee? I hope the drink was a strong one!

Rachel d., that Chris is a keeper! I wish I lived closer so I could have a bite of one!

Cariba, you have my sympathies. We didn't last two months in the Brownies.

Jessie, I think you need to go home and watch a funny movie (maybe with some wine in hand) to wash this day right out of your hair. xoxo

February 28, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterMrs. G.

Rachel, so sweet! What a guy.

I am sitting here in my house, beseiged with rain. I'm alone, because my husband is out at a work function and won't get home till 9 pm. It feels cozy and safe, and exciting and dangerous all at the same time.

February 28, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterAunt Snow

A really good "prep" day. Started the generator - which I try to do once a month, so if I do need it, it's ready to go. Last time I needed it it would not start. After my buddy worked it over he told me I was lucky it did not start as it had a rather massive rodent nest in it which would have most likely ignited causing a potential explosion, yada, yada, yada. At any rate, now I diligently start it each month. (That time it had been something like 12 years since it had been run. Who knew?

Then the neighbor kid came down and helped me move firewood into the basement and into a covered area closer to the house, and helped with a couple of other 2 people projects. We had a nice visit and got lots done, and I am as ready as I can be for the projected 12 inches of new snow - on top of ice that is predicted for my area. Geez, I am just sick of this everlasting winter weather.

February 28, 2014 | Unregistered Commenteranother sue

Enjoy your dark and stormy evening, Aunt Snow!

Stay safe and warm, another sue!

February 28, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterMrs. G.

Woke up at 3 am because my 7 y/o sleeping next to me was restless and having difficulty breathing due to her cold. I tend to her and am trying to go back to sleep. So I browse some blogs for light reading. I read the Christmas Cat Card debacle of 2013 and laugh out loud and almost wake the 7 y/o again. Thanks!

March 1, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterHeather W.

And the shirt? Wow. Just Wow.

March 1, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterHeather W.

My mother is driving me crazy on facebook. Making somewhat inappropriate comments on EVERYTHING. Sigh. It's not that she doesn't mean well, she just really has very little idea of social rules and is addled by pain pills. The combination is not an endearing one.

And more new in aging parents, we are in the middle of moving my in laws into an assisted living place, a villa. Not an apartment, and the place is lovely. But MIL has dementia and is confused and is breaking down sobbing a lot. I feel for the pair. My FIL is wearing himself down to nothing trying to care for both of them, he needs this assistance with the veneer of independence.

And my confession. For the first time I worry about what my later years will be like with a spouse 16 years older. Will my retirement be as a nurse? Will I work until 65 to pay for our existence and then caretake him, and be left on my own with no more energy, finances, or time? I have taken care of two grandparents through the end of their life and a disabled mother and already watched my father die. I have zero illusions about how this can go. I literally have had almost no time in my life where I wasn't a full time care taker for others, and I am hoping that someday, somehow, there will be a little window of time for me. Footloose time, going someplace on a whim time. Not sacrificing for someone else time.

In other new, no thyroid or other problems. And after reading above, maybe I am just legitimately tired.

March 1, 2014 | Unregistered Commentermolly

I am overwhelmed by this: there have been Russian troops in Ukraine since a day or so ago, Putin just asked and received formal approval for those troops and more to go into Ukraine, we and the U.K. have a treaty (rightfully) to supply troops to Ukraine if they come under threat. What is about to happen in our world? Otherwise, a beautiful day here with crowds already beginning to gather for this afternoon's parade up the street, probably have around 5000 nearby when it starts. Now I'm gonna find a rock to hide under; oh right, we have to import rocks here.

March 1, 2014 | Unregistered Commenternaomi d

This is my first Saturday AND Sunday I've had off in, oh, a year? I am schlubbing around in sweats and a robe and it is glorious.

However, it's my husband's college spring break, and he always tries to really do nothing during break. Of course, I don't really ever get a spring break, and so I am kind of silently stewing whenever he complains about me asking him to do dishes or whatever. "But I'm on SPRING BREAAAAAK!" Guh. I'm trying to let him have a break, but ... sour grapes.

March 1, 2014 | Unregistered Commenterkate in MI

kate in MI - oh my! Does he have any idea how lucky he is? Because he most likely has not had a week off for what, two months? Such shenanigans would not fly at my house. For openers, unless he has week-end class responsibilities, his spring break has not yet begun. He has just been blessed with two glorious days in which to treat you really well. And maybe do some cooking ahead in case he wants to eat during spring break without cooking, and/or make a dash down to the thrift store to get some extra dishes in case he plans to stack a week's worth of dishes to do when he is back to school. Sigh This could explain why I don't have a life partner? I dunno. It has been noted that I do not suffer fools gladly. At home or at work. You can tell me to shut the h*** up. It won't be the first time I've heard that either! I should have probably just left the typing go and watched it snowing. Which is, of course, not all that welcome, unless it has replaced the freezing rain that was supposed to come first (and has not), in which case, hurray! Take care!

March 1, 2014 | Unregistered Commenteranother sue

I am so frustrated with my fellow students right now.

This semester, I am a teaching assistant for the first time in my life. That means grading undergraduate papers. I started reading them last night and I am appalled at how poor the writing is. Absolutely appalled! The grammar is ok, but there are many issues with word usage and punctuation. Every single paper so far has included contractions, which is a big no-no in formal papers. Even ignoring all of those mechanical problems, the writing is very stream-of-consciousness, not coherent, cogent paragraphs that actually say something. It is a reflection paper, so I am willing to give them quite a bit of leeway, but the writing is so...vague...that I have a hard time deciding if they have even met the minimum requirements of the grading rubric.

In another situation, I am mentoring/supervising a new student at my workplace. We scheduled a meeting with a vendor on Monday. The student texted me this morning to tell me that she forgot she is supposed to tutor a friend at the time of our meeting. When I asked if she could reschedule with her friend, she told me he is taking an online test at that time and "it's open book and open notes." A - open book/open notes does not mean you can consult with other students (in fact, most of my profs specifically forbid just that); B - the vendor meeting is for her benefit, to give her experience, and it is difficult to find time when all three of us are available.

I know they are young and inexperienced. I know they have to be taught how to write (apparently it didn't happen before they reached this university senior-level course), and how to behave professionally. But, come on, seriously? Am I just too old for this shit?

March 1, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterViolet

molly: I had the same problem with parents (fortunately no in-laws). My suggestion is that you hie yourself to your friendly insurance agent (and/or the nearest one) and learn about long term care insurance. The younger you are the less it will cost. I did it at age 64 and it was affordable at the time. LTC has increased in price as of 2 yrs ago, and so now it's not quite so affordable. But I still keep paying it, because I know I'll need assisted care/nursing home before I finally leave this earth.

March 1, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterGail

Aunt Snow, hope you and your house are still standing!

March 1, 2014 | Unregistered Commentersusan

We are still standing and dry! The worst part of the storm was yesterday morning and yesterday evening. There was supposed to be another front coming in from the ocean, but it hasn't yet, and I'm wondering if it went around.

Our son is coming home tomorrow!! He's been in London for three + years, and his work visa has finally run out. He's starting a PhD program at UC Berkeley in the fall, so he will be staying with us until then. After leaving London, he flew to Tokyo on his frequent flyer miles, and so tomorrow he is coming to LA from Tokyo.

I spent the afternoon putting fresh sheets on his bed, and towels in the bathroom. We had professional cleaners clean up the mess from our septic shit geyser, and his bathroom looks fine. But that room still smells a little musty - I need to put something in there to freshen it up. Usually when he comes home there is something blooming in the garden, so I put a little vase in there, but this year what with the drought and this storm, and our garden being dug up for septic work, I have nothing in bloom.

What would be a good thing to freshen up a room that's not too icky artificial room-freshener smelling?

March 1, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterAunt Snow

Aunt Snow, maybe essential oils dropped into a non-perfumed candle? Or just candles in general? I don't like heavy fake scents, but some of the air fresheners that have wood wicks seem less artificial.

March 1, 2014 | Unregistered Commentermolly

What an exciting time! Of course you're thrilled.

I don't like the weird smelling and/or artificial stuff either but when push comes to shove (like when I'm trying to rid the kids' playroom of the gym smell left behind by my husband's workout because we're having company) I have used one of the Febreeze sprays. In the air, on the fabrics. It really seems to neutralize rather than mask. Maybe that plus the candle/oils?

March 2, 2014 | Unregistered Commentersusan

I found the renuzit super odor killer worked best in Mom's room at the home. There are many "fragrance" options, but we steered clear of those and went with the more neutral one. Some folk couldn't really detect an odor from it, but could definitely tell the lack of other odors. It's that pyramid shaped adjustable - sell around here for about a dollar. Hope your other challenges get resolved ASAP, and you are left with lots of time to enjoy your family.

March 2, 2014 | Unregistered Commenteranother sue

I'm calmer today - that Ukraine stuff is scary, so I cut back dead off the plants. The avocado was burned, as was the lime, but all have green tips now. The jasmine are already replacing the few leaves they lost (native and south american). I found some hidden iris as I cut back my Russelia equisetiformis - a plant that started four inches tall and had grown to five feet high and wide. (It's also known as a firecracker plant, but so are many other plants; look it up, it's beautiful.) Today a friend is arriving to couch surf. She's kinda moved here but hasn't found a permanent place yet. I'm hoping she sings while hanging out (Bonnie Raitt told her she's one of her favorite singers, and she and Norah Jones have done a few duets). Mardi Gras I hope to be healed enough to walk. But HEY! I finally got through the medical marketplace, and qualify for a supplement and can afford insurance again! Signing up next week and once I have coverage, I'm finding out what the h*!! is going on with my leg. I. just. want. to. walk. Sorry to those who have little need of medical; I do try to pull my weight in this world to make up for the costs I incur.

Aunt Snow, hope that new storm isn't bad. On your son's room, if you're up for it sprinkle baking soda all around, let it sit for a few hours and vacuum/sweep it up. Then maybe find one of those nice smelling bars of naturally scented soaps which are way too strong for bathing but great in a room.

Jessie, that was a day. I hope the weekend has been soothing.

Molly, you've had wonderful times with your spouse already, I hope, and have a good circle of friends there who will be there throughout life. If not, find 'em now. As one friend I hung with decades ago told me, "My darling, though I appreciate your friendship and love you deeply, I am old. As my mother told me, find friends your age and younger, because one day I'll die." I've lost way too many friends and family, but I keep finding these amazing people who gift their friendship on me. Just look at this great 'home' we have here. We're dealing the Lou's mom too, but I lost mine years ago. ("Leave while the party's good" I say, and they did.)

Getting too long here - just the best to everyone. Let's hope this world sorts itself out in a better way. 'Til then, pull weeds.

March 2, 2014 | Unregistered Commenternaomi d

Naomi d you are such a lovely person!

March 2, 2014 | Unregistered CommenterAunt Snow

I just found out that a child molester was in the outer circle of friends when I lived in another state several years ago. Fortunately, I didn't particularly like his group of people, so we didn't hang around with them, but my very best friend there did, and she has 2 young boys. He spent many holidays and evenings at her house, and was incredibly close to she and her husband. She is fractured.

Folks, go with your gut. My gut told me to never truly befriend him. THere was a weird, unstable vibe, and I was frankly too busy at the time figure out WHY I felt that way, so I just focused my friendship elsewhere.

I don't know any of the details, but I'm sure that the entire little community is rocked and shaken to its toes.

Respect your instincts (and DEFINITELY those of your kids). Never ever make a kid be with someone they don't want to be.

I'm scared because it would have been so easy to listen to my other friends who wondered why I was hesitant; to follow their lead and to have him over for dinner or whatever. It would have been too easy.

March 2, 2014 | Unregistered Commenterkate in MI

I confess that I am tired of winter. It is snowing again... and still. Yesterday was bitterly cold and windy (-12F "real feel") and there were snow flurries.
Hello, March! Don't forget about the green and warmth of springtime.

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