As you know, I'm getting married in less than two weeks. Id really like to know the three most important things that have kept your marriage strong.
Mrs. G. has been thinking about this question all week. She is reluctant to give anyone marital advice, because it is a serious subject and she has not one whit of professional training other than reading a Dr. Phil book years ago relationships are a tricky business. She and Mr. G. have been married for eighteen years, but, Jess, all Mrs. G. can say with any certainty is:
With this in mind, here are a few of Mrs. G's March 5th, 2008, tips for Keeping a Marriage Strong. She specifies the exact date because, and this is the tricky part Mrs. G. alluded to earlier, answers change depending on the day, month or year.
Mrs. G: What do think are the three most important things in keeping a marriage strong?
Mr G: What kind of question is that?
Mrs. G: I'm just curious. What do you think?
Mr. G: Love, trust and friendship.
Mrs. G: And?
Mr G: What do you mean?
Mrs. G: What do you mean what do I mean? Can you dig a little deeper and give me some specifics? That's what I mean
Mr. G: I'm not sure I know what you mean. That's my answer. It's simple. Can I stop talking now?
This conversation speaks to Mrs. G. Marriage Rule #1: Don't always look for deeper meaning. It is entirely possible that you will never find it. Sometimes a wet towel left on the bedroom floor is just a wet towel left on the bedroom floor. It doesn't symbolize oppression or disrespect or pent up rage or unfulfilled dreams. Most often, it symbolizes a wet towel left on the bedroom floor. If you can't accept this simple truth and you must explore the wet towel left on the bedroom floor and, say, its role in empowering the patriarchy, Mrs. G. suggests you buy a journal and, for the health of your relationship, work it out on paper. Silently. Sometimes it is what it is. In this case, a wet towel left on the bedroom floor. So, Jess, if it's not a bona-fide big-ass deal...